The Text!

I get a text from a friend today saying "If I ever heard about adoption possibilities do you want me to tell you?"

um.........

YES!!

A friend of hers (acquaintance of mine) has a friend who is 4 mo pregnant with her 3 child. She had two little ones already and cannot imagine being able to raise another child. (sounds good so far). She is very serious about adoption and the acquaintance has told her all about us, shown her our FB adoption page etc.

The emom lives on the other side of the state.

Now Mr H has to go to the Philippines for work at least once a year. I've gone with him previously. The acquaintance believes the father is Filipino. (Is that a sign or what?)

I've forwarded our adoption profile to the friend, who has forwarded it to the acquaintance who will forward it to the emom, contacted our facilitator (which gave me no small amount of angst)(who knew is was impossible to edit a pdf that you yourself didn't make?) and left a message for our lawyer friend.

I'm trying not to get my hopes up.

.....it's not working. I wonder if this could be it?

A Call ~

No, not THE CALL but a call. C called yesterday to see if we wanted to be profiled to a mom that is a little bit outside the criterion we set. Mr H and I talked about it and we do. We should know something Monday. It's a boy due in January. It was all I could think about last night and the first thing I thought about when I woke up. Thus, I have made a conclusion.

I don't want to know when we are being profiled unless we've been picked. Too much for my obsessive self to handle.

The mom has many siblings. Maybe that will be good for us. Who knows. I just want it to be Tuesday already!

Update #1

I got a call back today while I was in the shower. She left a message. The answering machine causes my dog to HOWL something awful. I thought he'd fallen off the bed or something so I leapt out of the shower all dripping and shampoo-y. Anyway, C left a message. Our letter has had lots of activity. It's gone out to 10 potential birthmom's in 2 months! She didn't have any feedback for us though. I don't know if I should be excited or be sad/neurotic!

Two Months

It's been two months since we went active. The facilitator said we should check with her after 2 months (and really not before then) to see what feedback there was on our profile. So I have emailed her.

I haven't heard anything.

Surprised?

Me either.

Patience is a virtue - Patience is a virtue - Patience is a virtue - Patience is a virtue

One down

So it's one month (and 5 days but who's counting) since our profile went active. I wonder how active it really is? We're not supposed to check with her until month 2. I've been trying not to think about it. I've joined a yahoo group of women that are involved in another project I'm involved with. They spend a lot of time talking about their children (mostly little ones) and I'm feeling left out. I haven't really felt like that before. Two of them have newborns. One struggles with infertility. One is a know it all. One's husband it getting a vasectomy and another is getting her tubes tied. I would never do either of the last two. (I realize I couldn't get a vasectomy lol). I tried to make the point that you never ever know what is going to happen in life and that fertility is fragile. One said "well we're just going to have him freeze sperm". Like it was a simple solution. I again tried to make the point of frozen sperm = IUI or IVF which does NOT always = baby. Talking to brick walls! I have a couple of friends that always ask how the adoption is going. That makes me happy that they ask.

We're back

We are back from our family vacation to Yellowstone and Glacier. It was a heckuva drive and a great trip. I was really worried about that much non-stop family time but it worked out ok. The kids go to their mother tomorrow night until the middle of August.

On the adoption front: I got a corrected notarized copy of the homestudy today.

I/we HAVE to get out birthmother letter/profile done this week. We leave on another trip next Saturday and I want to be active before we leave.

Against my better judgement I already wrote a birthmother letter before I had specific criteria. I'm very happy with the letter and very grateful to Karen for all her insight. Thank you!!!! However, it's not what the facilitator wants to it's practically back to the beginning.

Looks like lots has been happening while we were gone...I'm trying to get caught up with all you! I missed you and thought about you lots!

Dear Birthmother....

What in the world do you say? I actually think I have a handle on it but I think it's too long and dry and boring. My goal is to get this (Mr H is helping) and our profile done then take my stinking exam over again. I missed passing by 4 - FOUR - points!! I guess that's not so bad but it still involved crying.

I can only deal with one huge life changing bit of stress at at time. Therefore, I'm concentrating on the adoption currently!

Check out my poll - I think the scrapbook would be more personal but I think the photobook would be more polished and easier to mass produce!