I was filling out a preliminary questionnaire for an agency last night. They wanted "to know about your struggles with infertility". Crap! We didn't really have major struggles. I got diagnosed. Mr H got examined. We determined that between us the minuscule chances of us getting pregnant weren't worth the pain, time and expense. Why spend all that money, energy and heartache to still be childless and then not have any money to spend on alternatives?
So now I'm freaked out that we aren't infertile enough to adopt. It's been less than a week since we made the decision to adopt our child and I'm already freaking out. Ugh.
Social workers a kind of nice
15 years ago
Don't worry about it. Just write that biologically you have a 1% (or whatever) chance of conception and would rather invest your money in adoption than in IF treatments. I don't think that will be a problem. You will need to get doctors letters for your home study that describe your medical situation and during your home study the social worker will ask about your infertility as well, so you do need to think of what you'll say then if you're doing an adoption where the birth family chooses you. You may want to say something about Mr. H's kids and that you want to have children while you're still young so you don't want to waste a couple of years on treatments that probably wouldn't work. The "young" thing will be a plus in your column for birth families listening to your reason for choosing adoption. The thing that strikes me is that it sounds like you haven't been married very long? That could be an issue depending on the agency and the birth family so if that's the case you'll need to emphasize how compatible and committed you are to offset that.
ReplyDeleteJust went back and re-read your intro...3 years is good, so don't worry about that...sorry :)
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