Saturday, January 15, 2011


As I held Heath today feeding him I was overwhelmed with waves of love. Love for the sweet little, slobbery round headed fellow clutching the front of my shirt and my pinky who was making contented sighs as he gulped down his bottle.. For his birthmom MC who I think about daily and follow on FB. She has so many good things going in her life right now. I'm very happy for her yet sad that she's missing out on all the smiles and coos, and slobbery gummy laughs of our son.

Soon he will be 4 months old. The Dr said then we can start him on cereal with his formula. I can't imagine. He's growing up so very very fast. I love this smiley happy stage of his life. I've learned though that leaning him in for a kiss can quickly get my covered in spit up and other stinky goo.

Adoption is such a weird and wonderful thing. I'm so glad we have him. I know how much I love him. I can't imagine him not being here and being a part of our lives. I can't imagine how MC and C must feel with him gone.

His birth certificate came. We are listed as his parents. It's his original birth certificate. I'd expected that we'd get an original with their names and then have to get an amended one. Apparently, that's not how it works in their state.

Getting a SS # so far has been a nightmare. Part of it is because the adoption is already finalized. Now I have to get copies of his medical records to prove he's alive. Having him
with me doesn't count. Nor does his birth certificate count as an id. The SS guy asked what I had as an id for him. Hello!! He's 15 weeks old. It's not like he's driving. I'm going to try it again on his four month dr appointment. Looks like I'll be taking the day off.


  1. It is nice that you are able to stay in touch with the birthmom via facebook. Something so simple could mean so much in the future.

    As for the paperwork...blah...isn't all ends of adoption just paperwork CRAP. Our liscence is expiring this year, and I don't think we will renew. It has been a long time, and that spark that "it will work out" just isn't there anymore. At least for now, we seem to be at peace with that.

  2. I don't remember it being so nutty when we got Boy his SSN, and we did the temp one for pending adoptions and later did the permanent one. According to ( you'll need his original birth cert and adoption decree. I don't remember having to bring more than that to the SS office, and I took him downtown soon after the adoption was finalized.

    How can the adoption be finalized already? I'm curious as to how it went that fast. then again, Boy was barely 4mos old when we went to court and finalized... hmmm.

  3. We adopted him from Arkansas. In arkansas you finalize before you leave the state. There in no interstate compact either! He was born 9/29 and we finalized on 10/8. Actually, that was kind of late. We'd expected to finalize by 10/4 but our lawyers husband got rushed to the ER with chest pains so she didn't get the papers filed as soon as she expected.

    If we ever adopt again I really want it to be Arkansas!