Friday, May 22, 2009

Why does it have to be so hard?

Today has been the worst day yet. I realize there will be worse days but right now right here this is the one that sucks.

We drove 75 miles to meet face to face with our lawyer today. I wasn't sure what the meeting was about. My husband took the day off from work. We get there. They don't have an appointment for us. IN FACT the lawyer is out of the office. IN FACT she is out of the state! Until the 2nd week in June!

I was beyond pissed off. I still am. No one in the office seems to know why we would be coming in. My husband keeps talking to them. I'm thinking I'm not paying $200+/hr for this crap! I want to get out of there. They give us a booklet (which could have been mailed to us with the application!). We leave and I lose it.

We're talking sobbing to hysteria. Mascara running down my face. WHY do I do such a horrible job picking out the "professionals" that are supposed to help us? How is a lawyer that can't even write our appointment in the BOOK going to navigate the ins and outs of the law so my non-existent, mythical baby doesn't get taken away from me??

She come very highly recommended. Remember two months ago in our first dealing with her/her office when our scheduled phone conference wasn't? Then it was another month before we could get another phone conference with her? And it's now been another month since then?

Isn't the homestudy and the lawyer supposed to be the cut and dried easy part of adoption??

Why can't I trust my instincts? I KNEW we should have called this morning to confirm our appointment.


  1. I'm sorry you had such a crappy day. I don't think there are any easy parts to adoption...unfortunately.

  2. That sucks big time. I would change lawyers and tell them why. Surely they would want to keep clients. Why don't you write them a letter? You may not ending up mailing it but I bet you feel tons better after getting it out on paper with the idea that you'll send it. Boy that really sucks. I am so sorry.

  3. That really stinks, but it's not your fault. I hope she apologizes profusely to you for being so disorganized. :( I hope this weekend is relaxing and eases your frustration. (((Hugs)))

  4. ((hugs)) How frustrating! We have to drive long distances to see professionals (usually 1-1/2 to 2 hours), and it is so infuriating when something goes wrong on their end. Yes, maybe look into another lawyer - if you feel like you can't trust this one now. arghhh!

  5. I'm so sorry that everything has been so bumpy lately, and now this. I know it sometimes seems like we don't get any breaks. If you don't have confidence in her, definitely switch. Just keep looking until you find that person that makes you feel comfortable; like they can handle his incredible task that you are laying at their feet. This is DEFINITELY the time to be picky. If your gut is telling you to switch, that this isn't the right person, then do it. You don't want to go into this, sinking all that money, to only have it blow up later. The road is long and hard enough without our "team" being part of the obstacles.

    Hang in there and keep up the good fight!